How Black Men (and Women) Are Treated Less in the Dating World!

Dear Readers,

Have you ever noticed how black men are given a bad rap in society even before they are even given a chance.  First take a listen to the song above called "The Pain" from Murs critically acclaimed 2002 album 3:16.  Yes a rapper named an album after a scripture in the Bible. God is very important to a lot of us African American or Black Men!  I look on dating sites and on personal ads and constantly I see the phrase "No Black Men" or "No Blacks" or "No African Americans".  That is discouraging for the fact that we are singled out as unsafe, dark skinned people are often portrayed as ugly, as poor, and undesirable.  Its not even the fact that people have a preference to be with people like them its just the fact that I don't see a lot of any other ethnicity being treated like that.  How does this fit in with my blog about Rachel? I am going to say this with a heavy heart and sadness but I feel that when I came to Dawson Creek and people saw me they felt I wouldn't fit in.  They were scared what would happened (if one of my kind and I don't mean American) were to actually integrate into their society.  I always felt like one of the parents that saw me when I was helping Rachel take care of the children could have been one of the factors for Rachel's betrayal.  They didn't want their kids around me therefore Rachel's felt her livelihood was threated so instead of talk to me about it she abandoned me.  Or maybe someone in her family didn't like me but didn't have the fortitude to tell me.  White People really don't know they social stigma and pain they bring to others when they treat people less than a person.  They think they are so above others and that loving people outside their circle hurts them or their pedigree.  As a Christian I was taught to love people for who they are and fall in love with your heart.  I never look at a woman and think oh she is black or white.  A real man loves women period and whether she is from China or Canada I can appreciate a beautiful woman and get to know her.  After making that statement I will use the song "Dark Skinned White Girls" also by Murs to prove a point. Listen to the lyrics before you continue with my blog. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HernHe5Ctek 

The Chorus says "Rejected By The Black not Accepted by the White World" meaning not only are certain people not only rejected by mainstream society but also by their own ethnicity because they choose to just love people and love life.  I was always hated because I loved rock music over R&B and rap I was told by white kids that it wasn't my music to love.  I told them black people basically invented rock and roll and that half the songs that were rock songs at first were stolen from black people who werent allowed to have their music played on the radio so it was given to white artist.  This kind of narrow minded ness is why I lash out against the NEW CHURCH and the Myatt and Friesen families. Rachel should be ashamed of herself for playing with me.  Not only did I believe in her and not see color, religion, or any other thing but I chose to just love.  "Satan Subtracts and Divides , God Adds and Multiplies" is a Billboard I saw at a church and its the truth. With the New Church not believing in Satan and his evil they become part of the problem and are sucked into his evil and want to subtract and divide themselves from the love of Christian brotherhood around the world.  They want to judge and keep certain people out of their church which is a form of bigotry, racism, and dividing.  Most of all if God is calling someone home and you turn them away then are showing how False your doctrine and religion really is.  If you want to see a true change and be of Gods love then you must truly learn to accept and tolerate people of all walks of life.  I will leave this blog today making two points about bigotry and about making assumptions about people we don't give a chance.  I am choosing this popular dating site as an example.  Go on POF.com or Plenty of Fish and for ten minutes peruse through the caucasian women in your area.  When you are done see how many refuse to date a black man or have no black men in their ad. Not no Mexican, no Asian, not no Italian, for the most part it is no black men.  Two this is the 50th Anniversary of the BBC series Doctor Who.  I grew up watching the Doctor on PBS here in Texas and have been a fan since I was 5 when Tom Baker was the Doctor.  The Doctor is about to go through his 12 regeneration.  We have had 12 Doctors all special in their own right.  A lot of younger people who have only come into Doctor Who because of the reboot starring younger doctors Christopher Eggleston, David Tennant, and the outgoing Matt Smith.  A lot of them are on the fence about incoming Peter Capaldi because of him being 50+ and Matt Smith is just about to hit 30.  We make such a big deal out of things like that instead of just enjoy life.  That is a form of prejudice called Ageism. Should we throw away our grandparents or mother or fathers because they got old? I watched both of mine die in the past couple of years one at 59 and the other at 61 two years apart and to me they were both young with me being in my 30s.  Can you see how we blur the line between prejudices?  Maybe you are thinking some of this is apples and oranges but if you really stop and think about it all its very petty. God's greatest commandment was to love each other and I will always fulfill that no color or any other hang up will stop me from doing God's will.

Daniel 9:4

⁴ I prayed to the Lord my God and confessed:

“Lord, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and keep his commandments,

Matthew 22:37-39

³⁷ Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ ³⁸ This is the first and greatest commandment. ³⁹ And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’


If we spent more time listening to God, listening to others and being humble instead of hateful the world would be a better place. Not finding differences but finding what makes us alike and brings us together.  Love is the only answer.  This I have always known.